How was your month? How many Lightbulb Moments did you get to experience? I'd like to share my biggest one with you.
I experienced a massive lightbulb moment this month, it was more like a lightening bolt!
I have always prided myself on being the type of person who deals with challenges head on, don't shy away, face them and deal with each and every barrier that gets in my way of being who I want to be. When things get tough, the tough get tougher.. that's right! Life is not easy or fair, but if you want something you have to fight for it, stand up and hold your ground.
I have also realized recently that barriers are really just there to show you that you are headed in the right direction. They are there to show you that you can do it, that you just need to get beyond it so things can be how you want them to be.
This month I continued my development in the field of NLP - Neuro-Linguistic Programing. Which is all about communication and how we become better at what we do by becoming aware of our unconscious thinking and strategies. (There's a lot more to it than that, you need to ask me if you want more info, or check out the video below).
During this 7 day training we looked at our value set and dealt with our thought processes that can get in the way of our personal success. The final exercise was a board break. Now, I have never broken a board before, but felt pretty confident that I would, after all they run these programs all time, so it must work, mustn't it?
Day 7 arrived, I had prepared my board by writing my objectives and my obstacles I wanted to over come, we watched several demonstrations and got ready. I watched a whole bunch of people ahead of me smash those boards with their hands and jump for joy, including my two friends who attended the training with me. Then I needed to go, I was looking at my board, looking at all the things I needed to overcome and all the goals I wanted to achieve. I looked at it and looked at it. I rehearsed the break, just like they showed us. My hand went down and.... Smack! Straight onto the wood... Ouch! That wasn't supposed to happen! Ok, don't over think, just look at those obstacles and do it again... SMACK! Wow that wood it hard... what's going on? Why can't I break through??
Then the trainer Dr Matt said to me, " the board is not there, the board is not there" and then Break Through! As if it just wasn't there. But how??
It took a while to compose myself, what was going on? I was facing my barriers, like I always do, I was looking directly at them and saying... "go for it" but I couldn't break through.
Then I got it.
My lightbulb went off.
I was looking at the barrier, facing the problem, looking it square in the eye, and it hurts. The fight hurts. But what if I just looked beyond the barrier, like there actually is no problem or challenge that can stop me. What if I just look beyond and move forward, then it doesn't hurt so much. I can see where I got through, (I have two bits of board now instead of one) so there is no denying that there was a barrier, but once I looked beyond and didn't see the barrier I could move on past it.
Let's not focus on the barriers to get through, let us focus on what's beyond it and what we will be achieving as a result.
It's going to take practice, and encouragement, find someone you can model behavior on, so you know what to do, and someone who will give you a pep talk when you need it. But it's true, anything is possible once you look at the end results.
Look beyond the barrier, what's waiting for you on the other side? Let me know.
Thanks for reading, I hope this has given you some things to think about and you have some of your own Lightbulb Moments.
I'd love to hear about them.
If you would like some help experiencing them, I'd love to help.
Please share this with anyone you know who loves experiencing Lightbulb Moments.
Enjoy the Ping!
This is Dr Matt James sharing about NLP, it's history and where it can be used, hope you find it helpful
Viki Johnston, a Brit who has recently moved to Southern California with her family, is a self-confessed learning junkie. Having flunked out of school at 17, she spent the next 30 (cough) years trying to figure out why learning stuff is so hard. She made it her mission to help others believe in their abilities and achieve more than they thought possible. Now through her coaching and business focused training she helps others to experience the "light bulb moment" and strive to greatness.